Welcome to Day 22 of the 31 Days of Random Reflections on Raising and Homeschooling a Child with Special Needs. You can find the main page for this series here.
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Shortly after receiving our son’s diagnosis, we were handed 5 envelopes with appointments that had been scheduled for us at the Montreal Children’s Hospital. I remember how cold they felt sitting in my hand with medical departments highlighted in yellow so we’d not get them confused.
I didn’t realize at that point how many more appointments we’d be making for years to come. All I wanted was to get home and begin our lives as a family.
I was bitter that it didn’t happen so smoothly.
I was upset that the doctors hardly gave us the time of day.
I was shocked with how quickly we were swallowed up by a system that was mechanical and scary and so much larger than we could ever wrap our heads around.
When I met several months later with our social worker, she sat with me on the floor of our home as I entertained my baby. We talked about so many things that day, but one question triggered an avalanche of events for me (one of which is this website). Seeing how wound up I was about our initial experience, she asked me what I felt was lacking for us at the time of our son’s birth.
I didn’t hesitate: Spiritual Support.
I got access to the resident social worker at the hospital when I begged for someone to talk to. I was given a hug by a gentle nurse who understood our situation all too well. I was always treated with respect by the nursing staff when I raised questions. But, there was something missing. Something deeper.
I yearned for someone to hold me and say, “No matter what, it will be OK.”
I wanted a wise, knowing guide to appear. Someone with soothing presence to tell me that we’d get through this time and then listen to my fears.
As quickly as I uttered the words, this thought came to me: “You are the support you seek.”
It’s true that I had to become strong of my own free will. I had to forge ahead because my baby needed me. I didn’t have time to dwell too long on my inner desire for comfort and peace in my heart.
Over the years, I realized that in being what I sought, I probably had something to share with others in the hopes of bringing them the serenity they need. This is how this website came about.
Today, I want to offer more than myself. I want to share with you some spiritual and emotional comfort from other sources that I hope will serve you when you’re in need of support.
Ideas for Finding Spiritual and Emotional Comfort
Here are some ideas for when you are at a loss.
- your local church
- a health center (look for counselors or psychotherapists, etc.)
- a meditation class
- a writing class
- a friend
Because you can be your own source of comfort, here are additional ideas.
- deep breathing
- a massage
- a warm bath
- a warm blanket
- inspirational reading
- spiritual/inspirational podcasts
- spiritual/inspirational music
Resources for Spiritual and Emotional Comfort
Literature and Kits:
- Victorious Family Bundle by Not Consumed: Includes the book Not a Statistic: Parenting in a Broken World and student journals
- The Caregiver’s Notebook: An Organizational Tool and Support to Help You Care for Others by Jolene Philio: This book is a true blessing to me. It not only helps keep me organized on this caregiving journey, but it also feels like I always have a friend with me. It’s filled with inspirations and quotes from scripture.
- Family Magazine published by HEDUA: Inspirational reading for homeschooling families (not special-needs specific)
- Emotional Yoga: How the Body Can Heal the Mind: book by Bija Bennett
- DaySpring Better Together products: Sometimes you just need the comfort of a pillow, some inspirational words, and a journal. You can find a slew of uplifting products here.
Free Podcast and Video on iTunes:
- Scripture Lullabies: Even though these are intended for children, I listen to these recordings in my toughest moments – including a difficult hospital stay and during those sleepless nights. You will be blown away by the beauty of these songs. You can download free lullabies to enjoy immediately.
- YouVersion Bible app: Take the bible wherever you go — for free. You can download daily devotionals or the entire bible (among other spiritual readings). It’s so well organized and makes taking a few minutes with God so easy and fun.
- Meditation Oasis apps: My favorite guided meditation site and downloads. I’ve been listening to these for years. Here are the podcast episodes you can download into an mp3 player if you prefer that instead.
- Abide app: Listen to prayers on your phone.
- Clinic PsySanté (recently changed to Sunflower Health Center): A local (to Montreal) holistic center offering psychological services in addition to holistic psychotherapy and coaching, and other health-related sessions and workshops. While this is a local resource, I’m including it as an idea for what to search for in your area.
- Kelly Sunrose Yoga: Kelly will take you far & deep within the secrets of yoga. She also has amazing audio yoga sequences you can download. I’ve been a fan for years.
- Willow Creek Community Church (online): Lots of inspirational videos and audios to download from here, but also provides spiritual inspiration within the site. You can find many churches with similar resources whether you are a member or not. I happen to have stumbled on this one day and have listened ever since.
- Beginner’s Guide to Common Yoga Chants: article on Yoga Journal’s website