Welcome to day 8 of the 31 Days of Restoration: Spiritual and Emotional Support for Parents of Children with Special Needs. You can find the main page for this series here.
All any parent wants for their baby is to be healthy. When asked about the gender, we quickly answer, “As long as it’s healthy.”
We do everything to keep the unborn baby safe. At birth, we count ten fingers and ten toes, and we listen for a healthy cry.
Nothing prepares parents for the news that genetic testing is required, or that baby needs emergency surgery, or that baby may not survive.
When the child thrives in the early years, we may learn about an unforeseen medical condition later in the child’s life.
How do parents prepare for the intense heartache of not being able to help their child? How we accept reality? How do we keep from collapsing with the knowledge that our child needs invasive medical treatment that will change his life forever? How do we explain the procedure to a child who may not fully understand what he will endure?
How do we hand over our child to a medical professional we don’t even know? How do we trust? How do we accept that there is nothing we can possibly do to spare our child pain? How do we get past the despair the entire family needs to face? How do we prevent from unraveling knowing we are completely powerless?
The answer is not readily accepted, but it’s a popular one.
The answer is: we don’t.
The answer is: we let go.
We learn to trust.
Affirmations for Practicing Surrender and Overcoming Parental Helplessness
- Even though I am feeling entirely helpless, I surrender to higher powers that be.
- Even though I am afraid of the outcome, I find peace in my surrender.
- I protect my child when I can, but I let go when I cannot.
- I trust because I know I am carried.
- I trust because I know my child is carried.
- I am protected and loved.
- My child is protected and loved.
- No matter what, I know I will be OK.
- No matter what, my child will be OK.
- No matter what, it will all be OK.