Welcome to day 15 of the 31 Days of Restoration: Spiritual and Emotional Support for Parents of Children with Special Needs. You can find the main page for this series here.
It is harrowing for parents to watch their child hurting. Whether it be physical or emotional pain, all a parent wants is to protect their child from harm.
When our child with special needs is left out, ostracized, bullied, and purposely excluded, the ache we endure is deep and wide.
We parents are sometimes left out, too. The first time I experienced this kind of separation was when we were not invited to a social event because others decided it would not be appropriate for us — without giving me the opportunity to choose.
As much as I tried to fit in and catch up, in time, others felt it was increasingly difficult for me. I became the black cloud in my circle of friends and everyone tip-toed around me. Eventually, the group dissolved.
Feeling alienated as a parent is similar to feeling lonely, but there is an added element to it. We are intentionally left out because everyone in the circle feels uncomfortable with our situation. The sting of this kind of rejection is palpable.
Although a little space from others is sometimes good, it doesn’t have to be this way for our child’s lifetime.
Affirmations for Restoring Community and Overcoming Parental Alienation
- Even though we’re uninvited by others, I know we are invited by God.
- I am accompanied.
- My child is accompanied.
- I am surrounded.
- My child is surrounded.
- I am wanted and included.
- My child is wanted and included.
- I am loved.
- My child is loved.
- No matter what, I know I will be OK.
- No matter what, my child will be OK.
- No matter what, it will all be OK.