Welcome to day 14 of the 31 Days of Restoration: Spiritual and Emotional Support for Parents of Children with Special Needs. You can find the main page for this series here.
Anger is one of the first stages of grief. Acceptance is the final.
Does a parent ever fully accept her child’s diagnosis? Decades later, even after living this truth day in, day out, there is a tiny part of us that remains angry. That anger rears its ugly head at the oddest times.
We’re angry when our child sits in his adapted stroller while other kids pick apples at the orchard. We’re angry when our child cannot participate in birthday events at party centers. We are angry when our child struggles to speak the words “I love you” when other kids have been telling their parents since toddlerhood.
I get angry that my son can’t walk, or run, or dance, or play soccer like other kids.
I get angry when he can’t eat what other kids eat.
I get angry at the number of medical appointments and procedures he has to endure. I am angry that he knows the inside of a hospital at all.
While we focus on his abilities, deep down, I am angry that he is not free in his body like other kids are.
Most days, I fully accept this reality. Some days, it’s hard to be so resolved.
The funny thing is, my son is not angry. He is the happiest little guy you’ll meet. He has a few things to teach me about acceptance.
Affirmations for Practicing Acceptance and Overcoming Parental Anger
- Even though I am angry about how I see my child’s limitations, I accept what is.
- I find peace in my child’s smile.
- I find peace in my child’s unconditional love.
- I practice peace and acceptance today.
- No matter what, I know I will be OK.
- No matter what, my child will be OK.
- No matter what, it will all be OK.